Ever been in a friendship or a romantic relationship you thought would last forever crumbles overnight? Trust me… It’s nothing new. There are millions of people out there right now searching for ways to get over somebody.
But the thing is, if the person you were with compelled you to search this, SORRY, but he or she is not the ONE you deserve. Though it can’t be denied that losing a person doesn’t hurt, even if they are not good to you, you need to understand the need to touch the fire to understand it burns. So now, let me walk you through some ways you can get over a person.
Accept the End (Even If You Don’t Understand It)
The process requires calmness and patience. Firstly, admit that it’s OVER for good. If the person doesn’t value or respect you, it shows a reflection of themselves, and has nothing to do with your worth.
Getting over someone can be harder if there’s no closure. Whether betrayal, a slow fade, or just drifted apart—accepting reality helps your mind shift from “Why?” to “What’s next?”
Never feel there’s something wrong with you; your outer worth comes from self-worth. You deserve the same respect, love, and effort you were giving to the other person.
You don’t need all the answers to let go.
Go “No Contact” (or Low Contact if Necessary)
If you are still in touch with this person. STOP immediately. Plus, never expect that they will understand your value when you are not around. Stop having conversations with them. Any relation without respect is USELESS, no matter how much you try to glue this relation, it will keep slipping off. Mute, unfollow, and block. Do whatever you can to completely cut them off, and see if completely cutting off means there’s no going back. If you are thinking you will block them, they will miss you, and you will unblock them. IT JUST DOESN’T WORTH IT. Your time is precious; let it not go to waste on somebody you will regret later.
Resist the urge to check their stories, posts, or status. Whether it was love or deep friendship, space is essential for emotional recovery. Give yourself every ounce of love you expect from others, because when you love yourself, you immediately become a person who is hard to resist.
Feel the Loss Without Drowning in It
Know the difference between EGO and SELF-RESPECT. Sometimes, to save a relationship, you need to keep the EGO aside; ego is not the emotion you should use to destroy any relationship. If your relationship is worth it, go for it, do what you can to save it. But, subsiding your self-respect for a relation that you are only going to regret later is just as LAME as their jokes were. Accept that you are sad! Feeling miserable is okay. Allow yourself to feel sad, betrayed, disappointed—whatever comes up.
But don’t stay stuck there. Set time boundaries for your grief. Find a way to channel this energy into something that is worth your time and value. I know it’s easier said than done, but with time, you will eventually heal to a point where breaking your feelings again won’t be easy.
Emotions need release, not rehearsal.
Interrupt the Thought Loops
In a loop of replaying memories? Normal, let them play for a while, release the thought slowly, eventually fading into the past, where you don’t have to remember it again and again. Going through the memories is somewhat like torturing yourself, and honestly, why would we want to do that? Ask yourself questions. Seek answers from within you will realise that this was just a phase and not your whole life.
You can start with getting up and changing your physical state (walk, stretch, cold water splash)
Say: “This is not helping me heal.” Replace the thought with a new task or affirmation
Redirect Energy Into Self-Expansion
Whether it was a friend or partner, you likely poured energy into them. Now, that energy is yours again. Use it to reconnect with others who support you, start new habits or hobbies, and learn something new. Progress makes pain feel smaller.
Remove Reminders
Remove any kind of reminders from the mind, such as the place you used to go, the songs you used to listen to, and the games you used to play. And in a physical sense, put away gifts( if you have any); usually, people with a time-passing mindset would barely spend any money on you; you can take this as a sign for the future, and consider this a HUGE RED FLAG for your next relationship. Next, clean your digital and physical space.
Out of sight–out of mind, this motto does help get them out of your head faster.
Don’t Romanticise or Re-Open
Even if it wasn’t toxic, don’t chase emotional clarity from someone who’s no longer in your corner. Closure often comes from you, not them. The thing is, if someone likes you or loves you, they will never put you in this position in the first place, where you will need their closure. Sometimes the urge to get the closure is stronger, but letting go here would be the BEST FAVOUR YOU CAN DO TO YOURSELF.
Never let such people re-enter your life, and make a fool of you, you are now wise enough to differentiate who is RIGHT and who is WRONG. Who deserves to STAY and who is better FAR-AWAY.
If they were meant to be in your life long-term, they wouldn’t have left without a fight.
Rebuild Your Identity Without Them
Honestly, you might think you’re all alone now. However, many people have gone through or are still in the healing process same time as yours. Ask yourself: Who was I before this person? Who am I now? Who do I want to become moving forward?
Healing is faster when you focus on reclaiming yourself, not fixing what’s lost.
My Take
Moving on is never easy and never will be if you are the one who was emotionally fully invested in this person, and it’s not a sign of weakness to miss them. You can miss them and still recover from the trauma they give you. It’s strong to choose yourself.
Don’t try to hold on to them tighter. Besides, don’t force yourself to forget them, forcing will only make it worse and don’t try to resist these feelings; the more you RESIST, the more it will PERSIST.
Remember you’re not starting over—you’re starting wiser.
